Me and Bec - Part 5: What we are and Conclusion

It is probably worth mentioning that the initial vows under which we were wed we have more or less abandoned. They are rooted in Christian tradition, and whilst we appreciate many of the values expressed therein, they were too far removed from our own experiences and perspectives for us to truly own them in our own marriage.

We did discuss renewing our vows, amending them to suit our relationship, and whilst we haven’t undertaken any such ceremony beyond sincere discussion, I feel that the commitment with which we hold each other does not necessitate words or verbal promise, and as stated before goes beyond the need for conventions passed down in previous tradition (though it is perhaps worth ritualizing in new/updated ones.)

And I will state what in words is simple but in practice so beautiful and deep, what our commitment is:

That will we seek to help each other to be the best that either of us can be, so that for each other, and for the world, we can give the best of ourselves.

In that there is no mention of happiness, comfort or peace, though they are all relevant, they are not the end goal for which we strive. This is how we love each other.

We would not be satisfied if we tried for anything less.

Conclusion:It is worth mentioning that everything written up until the conclusion was formed at the very end of 2011, and since then our relationship has undertaken many new things, not the least of which include a move to Victoria, full time work for Bec and study for myself. These have presented a whole new dynamic of challenges for us to face, and have forced us to evaluate our relationship from different lights, leading us to consider new solutions, new possibilities.
Whilst the future always remains unknown, but exciting, I can say confidently that I am better for Bec and she would attest the reverse is true, and the past few years together has contributed greatly to the individuals we are today. I am privileged to be in a place where transparency and honesty are our prerogative, and her understanding always humbles me.
What I've written here is but a taste of what has been. What will be could be far from anything I ever expected, but I trust in Bec's character that it will be good, and we will do what's best for each other.

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